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Funerals

"The art of living well and dying well are one."

Epicurus

When a loved one dies, there are many times in our Western culture when a family or loved ones do not know what to do. Often, even the possibility of death has not been discussed, nor have the wishes of the deceased been heard or talked about.

A fine funeral is one in which the life of a loved one is celebrated and acknowledged. The possibility of death is always there so some forethought increases how well we may live through it, particularly sudden and unexpected death.

Funerals do not need to take place in a church or a funeral parlour. They could take place in a local hall, a garage, a home or any other place that is seen as appropriate. There is increasing acknowledgement and use of civil celebrants to conduct funerals and the celebrant does not need to have formal qualifications to provide a meaningful ceremony. Most funeral parlours have a list of both religious and non-religious people who are experienced in taking ceremonies.

Funerals may be private or open, unpretentious or very public. It depends on the circumstances surrounding the death of the loved one. Sometimes a family will have both a private ceremony and a public one to allow for personal grieving and to give the opportunity to others to grief with them publicly a day or two later.

Funerals can take anything for 20 minutes to an hour and a common process is as follows:

The exact format for a funeral will take shape once the celebrant has talked with the family, found out the mos timportant things and has been able to shape a ceremony that reflects the life of the deceased person as accurately as possible.

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